Twin Flames Explained

Chaser and runner, anxious and avoidant attachment styles.

Giver and receiver, overgiving and receiving without giving anything back.

The one gives without any limits to the level of depletion as they are bargaining for love and attention and the other just devours everything as if there's no tomorrow and as if they are entitled to what they receive by also turning their back on you and calling you out on your mistakes and that it's your fault you over give.

A polarity that holds too much trauma on both ends, intensity of emotions and all the in between such as obsession, divine guidance (for what purpose though is never clarified just blindly followed), the deep sense of belonging that is lost on both ends and is searched and found outside of Self… and all leading to a big illusion of chasing or being afraid of true love.

There are a few points that cannot be dismissed, regardless of the trauma behind this shared connection.

Two souls of the same frequency that used to exist as one on a different dimension and reality and have explored too many lifetimes together from a variety of perspectives.

The activations are of too high frequency. Either we are talking about fake or true twin flames. Activations of spiritual gifts, higher perception of life and energy, a sort of enlightenment that activates the heart chakra awakening and with no promise that it won't shut off or that it won't take a lot of work to being in an expansive mode.

One activates, one goes to sleep. Until both awaken – for the union to take place in the physical - to a high level of frequency which isn't always sustainable or doable, because at the end of the day…it is a choice and everyone has free will to apply. The alternative is one of the both awakens, usually the Divine Feminine, which "she" also allows the activations and frequencies to flow through her for the Divine Masculine. The third alternative is both staying in the hamster wheel of repeating over and over again the chasing and running part of this connection.

The connection stays active energetically even at the separation stage and at the end of the separation stage, comes the separation even on an energetic level.

The more they are attached to their own traumas and wounds without actively searching and grounding health on every level and layer of their being, the more they are attached to this bond and shared connection.

The more they heal themselves, they easier the detachment comes to happen and the result is stepping into a level of indifference; if this connection is coming to play out in the physical with the union or not, it simply doesn't matter at all.

Some of the facts of the wounds within can be found upon reflection of the different roles they carry.

The chaser for example, chases for love and affection, belonging and to be seen and acknowledged, accepted and validated for their totality as beings; usually, represented by the Divine Feminine energy, always ready to go through fire to make everything work. Exploring in that space themselves in the over-giving side, over-extending for affection, with no boundaries of self-respect and self- appreciation feeling that if you don't do all these things for your loved one, then who?! The answer is obvious, but not seen.
Not having anyone else before in their lives given them love and with a tremendous amount of love to offer as no one taught them that this kind of love is meant to be shared with themselves firstly, so they end up not knowing how to do that.

The runner, runs away from love, feeling unworthy to be loved, impure to receive something so divine, they are afraid of being authentically intimate and vulnerable, incapable of truly leaning into it, they literally have no space for true feelings and even feel this as a sense of responsibility that is too heavy for them to carry. Feeling pressured to have to respond to someone that truly sees them, too vulnerable and overwhelmed by this intense feeling that will inevitably consume them to a level they can't handle as they have never been loved like that. So they end up hiding themselves away, dismissing all the parts within them that scream for love yet alone because they are just too afraid to experience it; usually represented by the Divine Masculine.

Roles are exchangeable, but for the most part they keep the polarity at the level it started. The one is chasing and the other is running.

As you may have noticed, none of the twins is in a place of truly understanding love and what it means in depth. The one though is more ready, open and eager to explore it than the other, and that would be the chaser or the Divine Feminine.

Both of them share wounds around the mother role in their lives. They have never been validated enough, they haven't received the love they needed to receive and the one turned out to be the avoidant and the other working on the anxious attachment. Wounds from the role of the father come and play out as not feeling enough or successful, that they have to reach to a specific level of success which usually is interpreted to income and finances and being successful work wise. The Divine Feminine feels the push to become successful in order to satisfy their Divine Masculine and finally attract their attention, the Divine Masculine feels their worth very low if they haven't succeeded to something – depending on what they translate as success. Meanwhile, if the Divine Feminine gets to the level of – whatever is considered to be a – success, the Divine Masculine gets to feel intimidated by it regardless of their status of success. The latter will feel intimidated even by the former's spiritual connection, divine insights and how well they can see through them.

There's no easy way out of this polarity and for the most part it ends up taking years and years of staying in this connection either active, inactive or in and out.

The less someone is focused on their personal healing journey the easier it is to have this polarity prolonged for years.

Always in the waiting mode (with the fake hope that something will change or shift) or safekeeping something for later (that I will feel more ready for this intense connection – which phase never comes it always postpones itself with the illusion they will be more prepared later and it actually stays in the list for later and even more later, in other words, … they are never truly ready enough to take any steps forward). This is mostly expressed by the Divine Masculine while the Divine Feminine keeps this part of the polarity active as a shadow from a different perspective.

Once the questions arise though, answers will flow. The mirrors of the twin flame connection come in many shapes and forms. Through other potential partners, short romantic connections that are meant to fail as the need to be available in case they return, which as a thought, always lingers, the feeling that opening up to someone else will potential make them lose the one chance of a lifetime – them returning and their frustration for the lack of availability.

And there it hits you… Hard and steady! A moment of clarity that unveils many other layers of who you have been your whole life, why you have been waiting for the twin to respond positively, why although they have their clear signs and they know they have feelings they don't actually respond to this calling for love.

And it's not metaphysical or spiritual. It's pure psychology.

The one has been the anxious and the other has been the avoidant.

This is exactly the point, that if you have done enough shadow work and reflection you will feel that you just lost your interest once this is realized.

That is it. The end.

Not for egotistical reasons but out of self-respect and truly finding your worth. Seeing yourself for all those little things you wanted to be seen and acknowledged by your twin.

There's no fear that you won't fulfill your divine purpose or that you won't receive the amount of love and the feeling of belonging you always craved for. You know all these have already been answered and offered to you, because you are truly divinely guided and protected.

You lose interest and you question yourself of how and why all these emotions are generated.

You go back to deeper wounds to explore how this occurred in this way, at this lifetime and you start reflecting on deeper wounds that bring you back in your center, offering you a deeper level of self-respect, self-awareness and knowing your power, how you deserve to be loved and why.

You acknowledge that all those things that you have at your disposal, come from within and want to share with someone else in your life are very precious and not to be wasted by an avoidant, ignored or even the fact of they are not worthy of making you feel as you are not enough.

That being in the anxious attachment style, isn't even you anymore, having worked through your personal wounds of rejection. You appreciate yourself on a whole different level and there's no need to chase or explain yourself.

Your presence demands attention and you don't even put any effort in it anymore.

You are not wasting your time and energy to be liked, to be seen, to be understood. You get to realize probably that your whole life you were settling for less, serving people around you, healing their wounds that they didn't even want to close and heal. They were only keeping them open to receive more and more and justify their behavior with good excuses.

You are stepping into your power in a way that you didn't expect and you can acknowledge the fact that this whole twin flame journey got you to really see yourself and find that place within of belonging which leads to everything else falling apart.

If realizing the polarity of the avoidant-anxious attachment styles hasn't helped you lose interest, then take some steps back and do more reflection work. There's something you've missed in this process and you are still lingering to the magnetic polarity of twin flames for the wrong reasons that will guide you to the right results…

Finding yourself.

Unmasking the dynamics of your current reality.

Reclaim your power.

Re-discover your Self…

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